Couples Counseling in Buffalo, New York, and Pennsylvania
Does this sound familiar?
You and your partner(s) have the same fights over and over and you feel like you never get anywhere
You have thought about breaking up because you don’t know how to get out of these toxic communication patterns
You have tried relationship counseling in the past but it didn’t feel like a good fit, or you didn’t make the progress you wanted to
You’re afraid of being judged for the structure of your relationship, and you want a therapist who understands
I have helped hundreds of couples and polycules regain the functioning they once had and restore peace in their homes.
How I can help
I have extensive training in several modalities of relationship therapy, including the Gottman Method, schema therapy, and Relational Life Therapy. I use a mix of these modalities to help you improve communication, conflict management, and connection in your relationship.
I hold a special place in my practice for LGBTQ+ relationships, polyamorous relationships, and those participating in ethical non-monogamy (ENM). My office is a judgment-free zone and I enjoy providing compassionate care to people in relationships of all forms.
Marriage/relationship counseling can help you…
Heal attachment wounds that are creating toxic patterns in your relationship
Learn communication and conflict management skills to express your feelings effectively and have your feelings heard and validated
Improve or restore intimacy in your relationship
Make arguments shorter, less frequent, and less intense
Approaches
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Gottman Method
Learn communication and conflict management skills
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Schema Therapy
Learn how your childhood experiences affect your perceptions and behavior
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Relationship Therapy Intensives
Improve your relationship on an accelerated timeline
Break free of the endless cycles and take the first step toward
renewed connection in your relationship.
FAQs about Marriage/Relationship Counseling
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In the weekly model, I typically see couples for a minimum of 6 months, with the average time being 12-18 months. Couples therapy intensives can resolve issues in days or weeks - learn more here
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Yes, the majority of my couples/polycules attend therapy virtually. I also provide in-person therapy at my office in Buffalo, NY.
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I use a technique called discernment counseling to help a partner who is “leaning out” decide if they want to pursue couples therapy or end the relationship.
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It is not a requirement for each partner to be engaged in individual counseling. However, it is strongly recommended.
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I do not allow partners to fight throughout the session. I am experienced in interrupting negative communication cycles and helping you to reframe and de-escalate the situation. This approach is highly effective and results in partners feeling safer in the therapy room than they may have in previous relationship counseling.
