“Passing Privilege”: A Nuanced Perspective
Introduction
Passing privilege is a concept that arises in discussions about identity, particularly within the LGBTQIA+ community. It refers to the ability of an individual to be perceived as part of a dominant or majority group, rather than as part of a marginalized or stigmatized group. While passing can offer certain advantages, it also comes with complexities and potential harm.
The Assumptions Behind Passing Privilege
Let’s consider the case of a bisexual person. If they are dating someone who is perceived as a different gender, they might be seen as having “straight passing privilege”. However, this assumption overlooks important nuances. Here’s why:
Relationship Visibility: While a bisexual person’s relationship might not be “in the closet,” they still face challenges. Assumptions are made based on their current partner, leading to erasure of their true identity.
Attraction Discounted: In both same-gender and other-gender relationships, aspects of their attractions are discounted. Bisexual individuals often grapple with misperceptions about their sexuality.
Non-Binary Erasure: For non-binary individuals, being labeled as straight or gay is inaccurate. Straight is typically seen as a man and a woman together, while gay is seen as two men or two women. Non-binary identities defy these assumptions.
The Harm of Erasure
Passing privilege can lead to harmful consequences:
Loss of Opportunities: Concealing aspects of one’s identity may result in missed opportunities due to discrimination or status loss.
Alienation and Marginalization: Feeling isolated because others perceive a selective version of oneself rather than the whole person.
Psychological Impact: Persistent passing can contribute to psychological issues, such as anxiety, imposter syndrome, depression, and hypervigilence.
Conclusion
Recognizing that different queer folks have diverse experiences is crucial. Let’s engage in conversations that honor identities without erasing anyone. Passing privilege is complex, and understanding its impact helps build a more inclusive world.
Disclaimer: This blog post is for informational purposes and does not replace professional advice.
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Danielle Stoner is a licensed clinical social worker providing in-person and virtual therapy services in New York and Pennsylvania. She is experienced with providing compassionate trauma-focused therapy and couples therapy to clients who want to transform their lives.
